Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault, and Narcissist Survivor and Advocate
Alan Hannah, Associate Pastor, Cornerstone Ministries, Don Chapman, Pastor
April 19, 2017 at 2:33 am
This caught my attention as I used to minister in that part of Georgia. I have been blown away by the number of pastor-predators. One traveled in the same denominational circles in which I once belonged. He was convicted, released, and returned to the pastorate with the stipulation that no minors could attend the church. The denomination ousted the church, and the predator continued to preach. I believe in grace and forgiveness, but there is a serious problem when repeat offenders are overlooked.
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April 19, 2017 at 11:40 am
I couldn’t agree with you more. My heart is so saddened by all these things. You know, when I turned my life over to Christ in October 2010 I had this belief that Christian ppl were good and I never would’ve believed that leadership in the church could do these things. And I would’ve never believed that, in my case, they would back up my offender. It’s made me lose a lot of hope. I don’t feel safe in the church anymore. I also don’t feel safe telling my story without being judged and told to just forgive. My heart wants to forgive but I’m just not there yet. And when I had said that I look forward to when they go before God one day and the truth is revealed He’s going to ask them why they didn’t believe me. It’s not about revenge at all. That’s not where my heart is. I thought I was safe in a new church I started attending but when I revealed me story to that pastor he said, “I don’t believe a woman should stay when in danger. However, as for the church’s response I can’t respond because I don’t know their side of the story”. The churches responses have left me doubting me faith and wondering if just pursuing a personal relationship with God without a church is the way to go. I’ve left that church and no longer attend one currently.
April 19, 2017 at 7:22 pm
I appreciate your honesty. I learned well how to fake my way through until divorce hit my home 3 years ago. My counselor encouraged authenticity, so I made a major change. Of course, many “churchified” friends can’t handle my authenticity but oh well. I started a church less than 3 months ago that I’m praying will continue to be a safe haven where people can be real no matter how ugly real can be. Your process to healing is one that no one can judge. If your faith journey is one without an institutionalized church currently, I can understand. I am a pastor who was hurt by the political machine. My prayer is that God will develop an authentic faith community through this new ministry. I know the devil hates it, but I have a greater calling that may not be traditional or even popular. From what I have read of your story, I’m amazed you have come through as well as you have. As you walk this journey, may every voice but God’s be silenced in your life.
April 20, 2017 at 8:00 pm
I’m grateful for pastors like you who live out the Word and actually do what Jesus would do. It gives me hope that one day I may find a church I can call home again. Until then, I will pray and ask God to lead me in the right direction. Authenticity and transparency is how we all should practice and display in our lives. We’ve already been accepted and forgiven by God. We don’t need to have anyone else’s approval.
I will be praying for your new church plant and I hope that God will bring your family and church many blessings.
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